Children who are Good at Lying tend to be Successful adults

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Children who are Good at Lying tend to be Successful adults

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Children who are Good at Lying tend to be Successful adults | Healthbiztips

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If you want to be a successful adult, then as a child, you should focus on your grades and studies. Lying almost feels like cheating, but a research brings childhood lying into a better light.

A study by Dr. Kang Lee, the director of the Institute of Child Study at Toronto University, challenges the common notion that "honesty is the best policy".

The research finding reveals that being able to tell convincing lies at such a young age is a sign of good brain development and reflects competence in terms of social interaction.

Every good parent wants what's best for their children. But, many of them are not aware that lying is a common thing people do, which does not exclude children.

Lying is a form of deception but it isn't always bad. Think of the white lies you've told your colleagues just to make them feel happy or avoid senseless conflict. Have you ever thought about those lies you've told your interviewer so just you get the job?


Turns out, telling a lie requires higher brain processing that controls the executive functioning. So, anyone can tell a lie, but there are those who can tell it in a manner that makes it seem like the fake is authentic.


If you're worrying that your children will turn delinquent because of the lies they utter, then fear not. Turns out, delinquents are usually bad at lying. In fact, the research reveals that childhood lying have no impact on cheating on examinations, and becoming fraudulent later in life.


Of course, the fact that a study reveals a positive side of lying doesn't really make the act less ethical. There's always the question regarding it's morality.

Dr. Kang Lee still points out that parents who catch their child lying should take the opportunity to speak to their child regarding the untruthfulness of their words in a constructive manner.


In conclusion, when parents find out that their children are telling a lie, it shouldn't always be a cause of alarm. Research has reveal that children who tell good lies have good brain functioning and development. It is worthwhile to note that every child is unique so every situation should still be taken with regards to it's context.

Is Bribing Children Okay? - Healthbiztips

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Is Bribing Children Okay? - Healthbiztips

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Is Bribing Children Okay? - Healthbiztips

Bribing your children is the quickest way to get it all done. It's easy but costly. Sure, it can't drain your wallet dry, or could it?

Bribing sounds like a bad thing to do. Have it ever crossed your mind what this escape goat act does to a child's psychology?

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Now, let me clear off misconceptions about this topic by saying that bribing a child to behave nicely or get something done is catastrophic to your child's mental development.

When parents bribe their children, they're basically telling their kids to act negatively the next time and only stop the bad behavior when they are bribed with money, a toy, or a treat. I'm telling you, you'll be amazed at how fast most children learn.


Respect and Responsibility

Come on parents, seriously, how do you expect your children to grow as a responsible and respectable adults when you're training them to receive bribes at such a young age?

You parents, how do you expect your child to respect you when you're giving them bribes. It's poor parenting. It's really bad.

I know it could be tough to deal with the screaming, crying, and temper tantrums. I understand most parents want an easy way out of this. Often, bribing has become the norm so parents fail to question this tactic.

The thing is, bribing children gives them a false sense of entitlement. Let's get real, when you grow up, having a temper tantrum is not a legitimate way to earn a living. The world doesn't owe you anything. You have to work for it!

Come on, the world has enough self-entitled people.


That's what they're supposed to do

We all have to do something because it's the task that we have to do. You know. ...do homework, finish a project, behave nicely, eat, drink, sleep.

A bribe is the thing you give a child to do something that he has to do. On the other hand, reward is the thing you give them for accomplishing something good.

It's like this, you give your child bribe just so the little brat does his homework. Another parents, who didn't bribe their child to study, treats their kids for receiving high grades at the end of the school year.

When children confuse bribe with reward, it can mess up their psychology. Oh, no! What if they confuse bribe with salary. Then, you'll get yourself a lazy unemployed employee.

Bribing a child teaches him to do something only if he receives a treat. If there's no bribe, that only means the kid don't have to do it.

It works on dogs, so could it be effective for children. The clear answer is NO! Well, a police certainly won't give a person a treat just to stop him from doing that bad thing, but most certainly he'll get himself arrested.

Some things just doesn't go by your way.

A child's brain is at it's formative years. It's at this period that they develop important traits.

Their are rules they have to go by, be it household rules or state law. Their are homeworks they have to finish. They have to learn that money don't sprout from nothing. Anyways, do you, as parents, want to earn their respect or not?


A vicious cycle

Once you bribe your child to behave or do homework, it can backfire. This can start a vicious cycle. Just hang on until your child becomes a teenager, it'll be pure terror.


What if my child is having a temper tantrum

I know it's hard not to give in especially when you're dealing with your child's rage. You have to know what to do in this situation.

When your child is having a temper tantrum, you have to stay with the child and prevent him from inflicting himself harm, until the tantrum ends. Keep away blunt objects. You have to keep yourself calm so you don't end up yelling which can aggravate the matter.

Tantrum is just your child's way of handing that extreme emotion inside of him. It's common in toddlers and preschoolers. Given time and nurture, your child will be mature enough to handle it.

You do not want your child to handle the extreme emotions inside them with a bribe.


Who says being a parent is easy? Ultimately, it's down to parents to hone their child to be responsible and respectable adults.

General Anesthesia cuts down Child's Intelligence

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General Anesthesia cuts down Child's Intelligence

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Their are cases when children have to undergo surgery and be given general anesthesia. Undergoing surgery is scary enough. Even so, knowing that general anesthesia can cut down a child's intelligence can freak out some parents.

General Anesthesia cuts down Child's Intelligence

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A child's brain development during their formative years (6-12 years old) raises great concern among parents.

When major surgery is deemed necessary, the use of anesthesia is a must...unless you want the surgery to be a living nightmare. But the use of general anesthesia does have it's downside when it comes to intelligence.

Researchers found out that children exposed to general anesthesia has a marked reduction in intelligence. Children experience impairment in memory and difficulty learning.

It is alarming that the bad impact of general anesthesia has over intelligence is dramatic even up to 3 month after undergoing operation.

It isn't until 1 year after surgery that a child is able to fully recover from the bad effect of general anesthesia over their intelligence. Which is both a bad news and a good news. The downside is the number of months a child has to painstakingly cope with, which, by the way, is a pretty long time. This can possibly result to a poor academic performance.

The upside is that full recovery from general anesthesia is possible.

In my opinion, we shouldn't be stupefy. Knowing the impact of general anesthesia over intelligence is crucial so parents, teachers, and caregivers wouldn't freak out, thinking that their child becomes less smart. Instead, see this as a part of a process the child will eventually outlive, given enough time. Patience, support, and understanding when it comes to teaching the child will go a long way.


What is general anesthesia?

General anesthesia is given to a person to make him/her unconscious so he/she will not feel the pain of undergoing a surgical operation.


Resource:

Zhang, Q., et al. (2017). Long-duration general anesthesia influences the intelligence of school age children. BMC Anesthesiology. DOI 10.1186/s12871-017-0462-8